I was with a girl a few years ago...
She was one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. We met on my birthday and fell instantly in love. As we got to know eachother I learned that she had battled an eating disorder and an emotionally abusive mother. I later learned that she had been raped at 16, lost her virginity that way. She had been in and out of therapy/treatment for years and was finally at a good place. She was intelligent, an accountant with one of the biggest firms in the world. She was fun, polite, outgoing, and we loved eachother more than we had ever loved anybody before. Despite all of this she could never shake her demons. Shy of a year into the relationship she started becoming distant and withdrew from all of her friends, family, and me. It turned out that she had relapsed and was having food issues again. She knew that I wanted to help and would not just leave her alone, which is what the disorder wants, so she did the one thing she knew I would never forgive... she cheated on me.
This was 5 years ago and since we broke up I've learned that she was engaged for a few months and has been in and out of several relationships, none of which were good. It's sad that many demons seem to be unshakable. Even the most competant and intelligent person can be haunted forever by childhood traumas. I know many people who have overcome a difficult childhood, but I know as many who seem doomed to be forever haunted by theirs.
That experience created an awareness in me that has improved my ability to choose a partner. Though it hurt at the time, from that experience I have learned that we're all flawed human beings and it's up to each individual to overcome the challenges we're presented.
Last edited by slaintedan; 01-08-2005 at 09:33 AM.