1. Do you have a family history of spanking (monkeys don't count)?
My dad took a belt to me once, a preschool teacher once washed my mouth out with soap after telling a teacher to F-herself. (Didn't know what it meant, just that it wasn't very nice). A few good swats here and there, but no history of regular spanking.
2. How does your form of discipline differ from your parents?
I fully believe in making any child responsible for their actions. We live in a society that is all about passing the buck and pointing blame elsewhere. Look at Clinton. What a role model. He outright lies to the public, then when he finally "comes clean" he STILL won't actually come out and just say it.
I have no children yet, but when I do, I will make them responsible. Don't pick up your toys the FIRST time you're told to? Fine, I'll pick them up.... and I'll put them up high in my room, and the child simply WILL NOT get them back for a week or more. If that doesn't work, I've got no problem beating a child's ass. If it leaves a mark it's gone too far, but up until that point.... a good healthy ass whoopin' when the child desperately needs it builds respect.
3. Did your parents use an alternative style of punishment instead of spanking and time out?
Yea, my mom counted. What a joke. 2... 3.... 3 and a half.... whatever. I remember being 5 or 6 and her doing that, and even then I thought to myself "why don't you just come over here and spank me if you want it done so bad". All that counting crap really told me was - hey you don't have to mind NOW because I said so... you can mind whenever you get around to it, and I'm really not serious about you minding or I'd have beat your ass by now.
4. What form of discipline worked best with you as a child?
The belt and the soap. I REALLY hate soap. I didn't say another dirty word for years.
5. What form of discipline was the most ineffective?
Counting and making stuipid idol threats. Or mom just repeatedly telling me to sit down and mind or whatever. Mom: "Get a clue! I'm NOT listening to you, I DON'T respect you, and I could give a RATS ASS if you want me to sit down.. .I'm busy having my own way right now... so you just keep wasting your breath".
The most ineffective form of them all though... is to try and "reason" with your child. Trying to "make a deal" with them. How many times have I been in a store and had a parent ask "will you quit running around the store if I buy you a toy?" WHAT THE F*CK IS UP WITH THAT???? How about "Son, plant your ass or you won't have one".... and if that child takes more than about 2.8 seconds to respond, I'll show him exactly what I'm talking about. Children do not reason. The child is looking to YOU for the reasoning, not making them figure it out... or manipulate it as the case often is.
6. If you don't spank your children, why?
Why any adult allows their child to put that "feel sorry for me and don't spake me because it's mean" on them is beyond me. These parents are the same morrons that buy laundry detergent from late night infomercials. YOU are the adult, YOU are in charge. A child will ALWAYS test their boundrys.... and believe it or not (to all the whipped liberal tree hugger parents out there... no offense) it builds the child's comfort when they know where the boundaries are. Children NEED that security, and you as a parent MUST inforce it.
7. What would be an effective time length for grounding or time out?
Until I made my point. Biggest thing here is to NEVER go back on a punishment. On the other hand, don't give out rediculous punishment that both parent and child know will NEVER happen. For example, if I tell my kid they can't play after school for a week because they came home late and missed supper... you can damn well bet that come friday, I'm not going to let junior go out and play anyway just because it's friday. Tough sh*t. I'll put him in his window so he can watch the OTHER kids play.
I think grounding shouldn't last more than a day or two for little kids, and a week or two for older kids. Timeout.... however long it takes for them to stop whining and crying and compose themselves... plus about 50% more time. If you let the kid out of timeout as soon as there is a 2 second pause in crying, the kid now thinks "Hey, all I gotta do is cry and I'm scott free".
8. What should be the time duration between the action and the punishment?
About a quarter of a second. How ever long it takes for me to cock my and and bust the kid sqare in the rear. That's the "wake up call". Then I'd send the kid to their room or whatever, and I'd come in about 10-30 minutes later to talk to them, dish out some sort of chores, or do some more spaking if the situation calls for it.
9. When does corporal punishment end and abuse begin?
If you leave a mark on the child, cause some sort of actual physical harm to the child, or WHENVER PUNISHMENT IS NOT DONE FAIRLY. In order to punish a child, it must be fare for the crime. You can't spank a child till' they can't sit down for taking an extra cookie out of the jar. A good punishment for the cookie would simply be "no sweets for 2 days".
It is clearly abuse if you need to spank the child daily. If you can't make the right impression with occasional spankings only when absolutely needed, then maybe the parent should take a look and figure out why the child trys to walk all over them.
10. Is spanking in any other area other than the bottom still considered a spanking?
Woops... misread the question. << edit >> .
Spankings should be kept to the rear end. Absolutely nothing around the face (unless the child REALLY smarts off... then a slap on the cheek is fine).
11. Should state governments step in and regulate effective family discipline?
What??? HELL NO. The federal gov't can
There are penty of people in gov't that already tell me as an American that my consitutional right to carry a firearm to protect myself and those that I love doesn't apply to me. Think I'm going to let them step into my family aslo? Have you ever acutally dealt with anyone in any government office? So what's the regulation? Is Hillary Clinton going to open a facility where I take my child when they are bad, submit a book of paperwork, apply for a licnence, pay a fee, then let the public opinion on the evening news tell me whether or not I can spank my child?
Sounds rediculous, but the gov't is a big snowball. I'm not going to open up the damn rule book published by the crooks in gov't getting kick back money to review the 'approved' proceedure for child raising.
If you have any other comments you would like to add:
I honestly think America is going to shit fast because of the HORRIBLE parenting of our yong people. You've got 12 year olds popping out babies. These kids raise themselves with no boundaries what so ever. Why the hell is it that American's scratch their heads and wonder why kids have no respect for themselves or anyone else??
Children love and look up to their parents. You are not spanking to 'beat down' the child. You are doing so to bring them up. If you truely love your children, you will never go over the line on them. But again, if you love your child, you will shape them into respectable young people who can do some good in the world and make a life for themselves.
Effecive spanking only happens a couple times in a child's life, because it makes an impression. Little wimpey ass stuff or threats of punishment every 3 seconds and the kid just drowns it out. I once was around a lady for quite some time who had a 3 yr old. All that lady did was scream his name... like every couple seconds... and injected "Do you want a spanking?" about every 15 seconds. Smith did what ever the hell he wanted to and didn't even look at mommey... because he had completely tuned her out after 3 years of her yelling at him. I think both parent AND child needed a good ass whooping in this case.
I remember the belt and a bar of soap. Hey, it worked, along with some fairly good parenting all around... I generally respected my parents.... once the respect is there, they so is a happy and obedient child. One lady I know carried a wooden spoon in her purse. 4 yr old little brother messed up and she beat him good with it until the handle broke. 5 yr old big brother watched. She replaced the spoon with a new one and kept it in her purse. Any time the children would even think about getting out of line, she'd reach to her puse and they snapped back into line. They were a good and loving family with very nice respectable children. That ass whooping with the spoon was well worth it.