The F4i spanner wrench will allow you to remove the "special" nut and allow you to remove the steering stem. As already mentioned, the re-assembly is the problem. I dumped the cash for the special socket - it fits all Hondas. I really wish local dealerships had a tool rental program. $60+ for a socket is crazy. Now you can always try to make your own socket if you're handy with a grinder.
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